Happy #selflovesunday everyone. Hope you’ve had an awesome week. I found this on an old post-it note today when I was doing some cleaning, so I had to share. I think this perfectly sums up my transformation and how I finally made it happen. For SOOOOO many years, I had this dream of what I wanted to look like and it was so overwhelming I was paralyzed by how far I had to go. I “KNEW” I would never, ever get there so why bother even trying? I had the worst negative attitude and less than zero self esteem, so I was doomed to fail before I even left the gate. That’s all it was – a dream (a nightmare, really). I just didn’t want it badly enough to DO anything about it.
Rethink Your WHY
When I finally re-framed my dream and went at it from how I wanted to FEEL instead of how I wanted to look, I was able to set some goals that would enable to achieve this dream. I had to come to grips with the fact that someday isn’t a date – nothing happens when your deadline is “someday.” This reminds me of a story of a little girl whose mother was a waitress at the local diner when I was a freshman in college. Her name was Gail. She always used to say “when one day comes” – Mom said I can have a pony when one day comes, I’m going to get a new bike when one day comes. I will never forget her face because she really thought that ONE DAY was going to happen. Precious little girl – I loved her optimism.
What’s that saying: “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” That’s exactly what I had to do. As I’ve written before, taking the first step was incredibly daunting and humbling, but I knew I had to take action, because my body felt like it was 90. Joints hurt, depression was getting worse, I couldn’t stand my own company, and also I wanted to be able to enjoy playing with my dogs instead of not having the energy to do it. I had to break this thing down into manageable pieces, a week at a time, staying on track with my planned workouts and my meals. Instead of focusing on the 90 pounds I needed to lose (of course the overall goal was always in my head but I couldn’t let myself be overwhelmed this time), I took it 5 and then 10 pounds at a time. This was SUPER challenging for me because negative Nelly wanted to keep thinking about how far I had to go.
So if there’s something that’s been on your mind, that you just can’t stop thinking about, but you have yet to take action – stop dreaming and start doing. If it’s that important to you, you owe it to yourself to find a way to make it happen. But remember, someday isn’t on the calendar. And you will never get there if that’s your deadline. I dreamed about being in shape for almost a decade – but when I got serious about it, but some goals on paper and on the calendar – PROGRESS! I did a little work here and there over that time period, but not enough to get results because I still had no defined goals. Getting in shape was way too slippery to seize.
So tonight, or tomorrow as you start the new week, take a few minutes to write down some ACTION plans. What will you do this week to move closer to your goals? GET AFTER IT! We can do this, one bite at a time.