Hello everyone! I’m so sorry I’ve been away for so long, but I haven’t stopped working. The picture above is exactly TWO years from the first day I started my transformation. I have changed so much not only physically but mentally as well. I went through a LOT of ups and downs during the two years as we all do in our lives. The difference for me this time was that I KEPT GOING, even when I didn’t want to.
Motivation is what gets your started, but discipline is what keeps you going even when you don’t feel like it.
I get so many questions about how I stay motivated, particularly because my journey has been such a long one and I had so far to go. The truth is NO ONE stays motivated 100% of the time, it just isn’t possible. We all want to stay in bed, lounge on the couch, eat pizza, chocolate, Starburst jellybeans, drink wine or margaritas, live in our pajamas for the whole weekend – whatever your guilty pleasure is…. and that’s normal. However, the difference in those who reach their goals and those who don’t (and I was a DON’T for far too long) is not motivation, but DISCIPLINE. When motivation leaves you, when you just cannot stand the thought of more healthy food or another workout, that discipline has to kick in. You remember why you started this journey, and you buckle down because what you set out to achieve will mean so much more than what you want RIGHT NOW.
I’ve promised since you met me here that I will always be open and honest, with the hope that somehow, someway I can help you with your own goals, whatever they may be. So it’s time for full disclosure. YES, I stayed disciplined for a very long time, I worked really hard because I wanted to prove to MYSELF that I could do this. However, at the two year mark, I admit I pretty much started coasting and drifting. I let some really ridiculous things get in my way – emotionally, I let things derail me because I just wasn’t strong enough to keep going. I lost my focus because I let those emotional things take over. In hindsight, they weren’t that important at all. But you never know that when you’re going through it, right? I’m here to tell you that it is not only OK but a requirement to put yourself first in your life when you find things getting you off track. It happens – the key is not to let whatever it is derail you for TOO LONG.
Break down, cry, sleep, write in your journal, even drink wine or whatever you prefer – do whatever you need to do to process your sadness, your grief, even your anger. The absolute key here is that you do process it – don’t live there! Process it, figure out how to use it to make yourself stronger and more positive (if it’s a relationship, what did you gain from it, how did it make you a better person?) This takes time, and it looks different for everyone. You have to just keep moving forward – no matter how slow, or how sad, or how mad you feel. The only thing that will help is to keep making progress – going backwards will just make you feel worse, trust me!
I did so much crying, so much eating, too much wine, and not nearly enough writing…. and not nearly enough of what was making me happy in the first place. I didn’t work out like my body needed me to – for me, it isn’t just the physical aspect of fitness but the mental well-being too. It took me longer than I’m proud of to move forward, but guess what? What matters is that I have!!! Life happens, but quitting doesn’t have to.
Here’s to US! Those of us who fight battles every single day but we keep going – we keep SMILING, we keep dreaming. THAT is what matters most, and I’m so happy that I managed to do both of these. Together we’ve got this. STAY PAWSITIVE my loves.