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Month: July 2017

Turn Your Dreams into Goals!

Go after your goals!

Happy #selflovesunday everyone.  Hope you’ve had an awesome week.  I found this on an old post-it note today when I was doing some cleaning, so I had to share.  I think this perfectly sums up my transformation and how I finally made it happen.  For SOOOOO many years, I had this dream of what I wanted to look like and it was so overwhelming I was paralyzed by how far I had to go.  I “KNEW” I would never, ever get there so why bother even trying?  I had the worst negative attitude and less than zero self esteem, so I was doomed to fail before I even left the gate.  That’s all it was – a dream (a nightmare, really). I just didn’t want it badly enough to DO anything about it.

Rethink Your WHY

When I finally re-framed my dream and went at it from how I wanted to FEEL instead of how I wanted to look, I was able to set some goals that would enable to achieve this dream.  I had to come to grips with the fact that someday isn’t a date – nothing happens when your deadline is “someday.”  This reminds me of a story of a little girl whose mother was a waitress at the local diner when I was a freshman in college.  Her name was Gail.  She always used to say “when one day comes” – Mom said I can have a pony when one day comes, I’m going to get a new bike when one day comes.  I will never forget her face because she really thought that ONE DAY was going to happen.  Precious little girl – I loved her optimism.

What’s that saying: “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.”  That’s exactly what I had to do.  As I’ve written before, taking the first step was incredibly daunting and humbling, but I knew I had to take action, because my body felt like it was 90.  Joints hurt, depression was getting worse, I couldn’t stand my own company, and also I wanted to be able to enjoy playing with my dogs instead of not having the energy to do it.  I had to break this thing down into manageable pieces, a week at a time, staying on track with my planned workouts and my meals.  Instead of focusing on the 90 pounds I needed to lose (of course the overall goal was always in my head but I couldn’t let myself be overwhelmed this time), I took it 5 and then 10 pounds at a time. This was SUPER challenging for me because negative Nelly wanted to keep thinking about how far I had to go.

TAKE ACTION

So if there’s something that’s been on your mind, that you just can’t stop thinking about, but you have yet to take action – stop dreaming and start doing.  If it’s that important to you, you owe it to yourself to find a way to make it happen.  But remember, someday isn’t on the calendar.  And you will never get there if that’s your deadline.  I dreamed about being in shape for almost a decade – but when I got serious about it, but some goals on paper and on the calendar – PROGRESS!  I did a little work here and there over that time period, but not enough to get results because I still had no defined goals. Getting in shape was way too slippery to seize.

So tonight, or tomorrow as you start the new week, take a few minutes to write down some ACTION plans.  What will you do this week to move closer to your goals?  GET AFTER IT!  We can do this, one bite at a time.

 

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Chapter 13 – Preparing Yourself for Success!

Welcome back! Happy #selflovesunday everyone. I am happy to be sharing it with you.  What I realized during all of the darkness the past few weeks is what I want for you all to understand too – you don’t have to solve ALL of your problems at one time, you CAN reach out for help and you will be amazed who is there for you, you do NOT have to suffer in silence even if you really don’t know what to say, just say SOMETHING.

Back to being UNSTOPPABLE!

Way, way back I wrote a post about choosing a word and living your word.  What Is Your Word?  My word is UNSTOPPABLE.  Yet lately I’ve been the opposite of unstoppable – I think my month of July so far can be described as treading water at best.  But the month isn’t over and this week I finally got control back again.  After the fog lifted, I realized that nobody is responsible for my happiness but me. Cliche, I know.  Also I realized that just wanting to be successful on this last leg of the first part of my fitness journey just isn’t enough (go figure!).  I worked so hard for 14 months and this month I mentally took a vacation from the dedication and discipline.  I think the pain my body was in played a part but it isn’t an excuse.

A Break is Acceptable, Quitting is NOT

My point is that it’s OK to take a mental break but it is NOT OK to let it completely derail your progress.  Every day you wake up with a choice – what am I going to do today to be successful, to make headway on my goals?  You can choose to let life just happen, or you can be your own storm and MAKE life happen the way you want it to.  Took me a few weeks to get back to this but I’m there now.  Remember last week when I said “I am the storm”?  Well, let’s face it – we have to be our own storm!  No one is going to do the work for us – we have to try, and fail, and try again… Learn from our mistakes, regroup and give it a go again, until we get where we need to be!

How are YOU Preparing for Success This Week?

As part of #selflovesunday, let’s take a look at how we’re starting our week, how we are preparing ourselves to be successful this week.  What does that look like for you?  For me, it means cooking my food for the next couple of days so that I have no excuses to go off my meal plan.  Also it includes laundry and getting my gym clothes ready for tomorrow’s workouts so that I’m not scrambling at 5:30am.  It includes drafting some blog posts so I can be more present here this week (I love being here with you all and I’ve missed it!), and also planning out a few more videos I would like to do.  Planning, but also being ready to execute!

Above all else, a PAWSITIVE mindset can get us through anything!  Take some time tonight to plan and prepare for your BEST WEEK EVER and let’s go crush those goals.  Can’t wait to hear how your week goes.

 

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Chapter 12 – The Calm Before the Storm

Welcome to #selflovesunday!  I’m so glad you’re back! As you know really well by now, I’ve had a couple of weeks where I haven’t been “killing it” in all facets of my life. Emotionally and physically I had just been existing but I changed that once I made up my mind to do so. Had some great workouts this week, and managed to talk to some people about my business (very hard for me).  Yesterday I really let my depression get the best of me and had a complete breakdown – I mean a SUPER ugly one, the whole UGLY CRY thing (you know, complete with sound effects that freaked my pups out).  Haven’t had one of those breakdowns in a long time, and even though my eyes are swollen from all the crying it was extremely therapeutic.

Sometimes It’s Okay to Let People Know You Need Them

I want to thank my friends who reached out to me when they saw my post on social media – I was very scared about how I was feeling and I cannot say how much it meant to me that so many people took a lot of time out of their evenings to make sure I was okay.  That meant the world to me.  Normally I wouldn’t share that stuff but I realized I needed to some positive people in my world to get me back to Pam.

Everything hit me all at once – I won’t leave a list because it’s all stuff everyone deals with every day.  It just felt like the world was collapsing on me and I LOST it.  I can battle one or two of these crazy things at a time but when they all got together and formed an freaking ridiculously strong army, I didn’t handle life very well at all. So TODAY I am practicing SELF LOVE!!!!  I am a warrior, and I CAN handle this – I just lost sight of that last night.  I have amazing people who reminded me.  

Calm Before the Storm (I AM THE STORM!)

Remember I was questioning surgery/no surgery for my shoulder in my last post?  Well, this week’s training went really well and I feel so much better about that now.  I’m approaching this new week believing in myself again – like the quote at the top says.  I have felt a little like I haven’t had a mission with my training but just took a couple of weeks to let my shoulder/arm have a tiny bit of rest (THE CALM BEFORE THE STORM!) and it’s time now to put EVERYTHING back into place.

Doing food prep this afternoon (I got away from it a little bit during this less than positive time period) and have set a goal to get rid of these last 10 stubborn pounds by my birthday.  Then we can start on the next phase of the journey – which I can’t wait to tell you about soon.  “Never say never” – how’s that for a teaser?

Let me leave you with this cute little video as we move into a new week.  I hadn’t heard the song until I saw it on my timeline, but I LOVE IT!  Might be my new mantra.  I’m sure I will have mental and physical setbacks, but they will not define me and they WILL NOT derail me.  We are all so much stronger than anything and everything trying to take us down.  My loves we’ve got this, so STAY PAWSITIVE!  Let’s go after our dreams with every single fiber of our beings.  

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Chapter 11 – It Really Is True – Your Happiness Is Up To You

Hey there!  Welcome back to Truthful Tuesday.  I’m so glad you’re here.  I haven’t written because I didn’t think I had anything worth sharing, but then I realized I’m sharing LIFE with you, so here goes.  This past week was a REALLY rough one emotionally, and I really got off track with my goals, both writing and fitness related.  I got my workouts in but did not eat according to my meal plan AT ALL.  I was just a complete wreck and I let that get in the way of everything.  This morning I woke up knowing that it was time to GET OVER IT.  Time to be POSITIVE and let go of what I cannot control, and take charge of what I can!  I let this last week get away from me, but no more.  I could be upset with myself, or I can give myself a tiny little break and be thankful that I regrouped when I did.  Today, I choose self love and happiness!

Full Disclosure Coming Up!

 

Surgery or Not?

I’m struggling with a decision about whether to, and when to have shoulder surgery.  I did not injure it, I just have some chronic issues in there from the surgery I had 11 years ago (scar tissue, some bursitis and bicep tendon inflammation).  I really dread the thought of another rehab and recovery, so I’m trying to decide if the pain is bad enough to warrant it yet – and it not now, when?  I am not able to give my upper body training 110% like I want to, and I know the shoulder is holding me back, but I am struggling coming to a decision.  I keep hoping it might improve and I won’t have to decide!  That has gotten me down over the last couple of weeks, then combined with last week, I’ve just not been able to get myself together.

Starting My Own Business

I also took a leap of faith and started my own business (direct sales) – and it’s hitting me that I don’t know how well I can really do at this!!! I’ve been needing a little extra income for a while and they had an offer that was too good to pass up, so I didn’t 🙂  But now it’s starting to sink in that wow, I don’t really know a lot of people and I don’t want to “turn off” anyone I do know by sharing too much.  However, I know I need to pay my bills so…. catch 22.  I’m really excited to get products in hand so I can use them myself and be able to speak firsthand about them.  What’s that saying “everything worth having happens outside of your comfort zone”?

Uncertainty and Stress

So today it feels like everything is kind of uncertain in my little corner of the world and I sure hope I can manage to get things back on track, because I do NOT do stress well at all.   I hope it will pass soon but I cannot control that no matter how much I wish I could.  I have to take a deep breath and send some positive vibes out that everything will work out SOONER rather than later.

Suck It Up Buttercup!

I want my corner to be happy again!!!  And there’s only one person who can make that happen  – ME!!!

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

Today, finally, I am choosing happiness.  The stress is still there but a positive mindset can conquer just about anything!  With the right attitude ANYTHING is possible, and I am sorry that it took me a week to really get this into my head.

Stay PAWSITIVE my friends!

 

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